i hate my stepfather for his infatuation with me Relationship Family
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my parents have been separated ever since i was 3 and i dont remember anything before that. in 2016 my mom got married to another man and its been fine with him until recently. for the past few months hes been so clingy around me to the point where it makes me uncomfortable. everytime i walk near his room he always asks, "can you give me a hug?" and its every. single. day. he always tries to talk and joke with me but its so awkward bc i literally hate him. i dont know what to say in response half the time. he adores me and treats me like im 5 years old, calls me "cutesy" nicknames and hugs me and stuff like that. um last time i checked i wasnt in kindergarten and havent been for 10+ years. i dont have a car so i cant move out, school just started so i cant do much anyway.

my dad is the only one who understands me, sometimes i vent with him about this. my dad and stepdad never liked each other for reasons im not comfortable explaining.

i told my mom i wasnt comfortable with his infatuation over me, but shes to absolutely no help. i tell her i need my space from people. she says, "yOu HaVe YoUr OwN RoOm!!!" jeez mom thanks i didnt know that. i tell her im sick of talking and hugging him every damn second im out of my room to the kitchen. she just replies, "hE AdoReS yOu HoNeY." i cant even talk to her about this bc at the end she just says "youre being selfish." so yeah shes no help

i hate my stepdad


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Andrew
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Hey hey.this is a unique case where you get attention (probably over attention) and not liking it. Understandable coz you don't like his over love for you. Over hugging or display of affection but probably coz he is your stepdad that's why he is trying to be over friendly and make you comfortable. Have you tried talking to him? have you tried to reason out with him and he will understand. Tell him you are no longer that child and need caring but in a different manner.see if it works

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gaurav
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Hi LF, thank you for writing to VAO. Here I see you not been able to accept the emotions of your father. It’s very natural at this age. accepting a new person in your life specifically if that person is replacing your blood relation it’s not easy. But I think you should take it easy and talk to your stepdad or to your mom as well again. Saying that you need some time to mingle with him and take him as your dad. Hugging and adoring might be his way of showing love for you but it’s up to you how you take it and it’s up to you to take as much time you need to accept him. Firstly understand that it is not a problem and everyone has different ways to handle people and new relationships. I advise you to be positive and till you feel comfortable and safe you can stay as you like with him. But direct communication always helps. Take care
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