Why its important to have clarity in thoughts

Often times people answer when asked Ques: what do you want to eat Ans-Kuch bhi Where should we go for outing- Ans- kahin bhi.  Sounds familiar??? Well,  this is so normal to hear, almost everybody says like this.  So what's the problem, you would be thinking... Well,  there's no problem in the above case  but the problem happens when this kind of pattern in thinking becomes a habit over a period of time.  As the famous zen saying goes - the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. And imagine... when you don't have clarity in thinking and when you have to ask for concrete answers like - What kind of girl you wish to marry? What kind of job you want to do? What kind of house you wish to buy? What will you do??  And without clarity, whatever you get will be a coincidence , it could be workable or could be a disaster. If it's not workable,  begins a chain of blame game. "What bad karma i had to attract such a boss" "Why did God give me this kind of husband"? And the list goes on. As Paretos principle say that 80% of our life depends on 20% decisions we take. So why not focus clearly on 20% to make lives wonderful by another 80% automatically. Just ponder....

2 years ago

Becoming Stable Emotionally & Mentally

Have you ever seen  a car coming from behind hitting the car in front? No points for guessing what happens next. Majority of the times, both drivers they get in arguments and sometimes to fist fights or even killing in extreme cases. Imagine, you as a passerby are seeing this and wondering – the damage on car is not even worth Rs. 500 and still these guys are mad with anger. I am sure it has happened many times. Isnt it?   So what happened to these people who got in rage? If I say, its not their fault for behaving this way, I know you wouldn’t agree with me. But actually its true. Its not the persons fault to get in rage because the processing of his response in his mind is happening so quickly that person is not even able to realise that he has got into a fight. Did you know 93-94% decisions you take on a daily basis are unconscious in nature, which means you react without even knowing why you did so. And this RESPONSE (Argument or Fight etc) is due to the STIMULUS (hitting the car), wherein the processing in mind is happening unconsciously, that too very rapidly.. So how do you change the response and become emotionally more stable. Well, you need to dissect the situation and understand what MEANING you are attaching to a situation. The moment you change the ‘meaning’ of a situation, your response changes. In the above example – when someone hits another persons car – the meaning that person gives, to hitting the car is – oh, my car is damaged or how dare he hit, or what an idiot he is or theres so much expense or there is an inconvenience etc. Now imagine, if the meaning is changed to something like - Oh, thank god, I am saved or I am glad I didn’t kill him.. Do you think the response would still be the same?  No, not at all. Often times, people get emotionally and mentally stuck because they give a very strong personal meaning to any situation in their environment and majority of the times, since we cannot control the environment, it leaves people sad or upset or angry or irritated. And this dissection is true in every situation. Whenever we find ourselves stuck in any unresourceful situation, the meaning that we have given to the situation is negative or useless. The moment we change the meaning to a more promising one or more resourceful one, we cannot remain stuck. Change the meaning change the situation change the situation change your life!!!

2 years ago

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