Relationship Significant Others
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VPoints 17
Supporters 2
Vent 3
Frustrated
2 weeks ago
What do I have to do to be good enough for someone to stay with me?

Why is it that the women I'm interested never see me as worthy of their love? They'll flock to whatever jerkoff has the right stuff at the moment, get hurt by him and I am somehow responsible for what he did. And when I do make the mistake or do what causes the problem, I'm horrible and evil and despicable and don't deserve to be loved.

Why even try anymore? No one ever seems to see me as anyone of value unless they're so damaged that anyone seems like a good choice. I just want one woman for me. One. Why is it so hard to find someone? I'm going to be 40 next month and the only thought I have is how much of a failure I am as a mate since no one stays with me. And nearly every woman who left me? They found Mr. Right and are living happy lives.

How come I don't get to live the happy life? What do I have to do to make someone want to stay even when I'm flawed? I know guys who are actual criminals and cheat on their wives but not one leaves. Me? I say or do one thing a woman doesn't like and I'm immediately persona non grata.

It's not fucking fair.

Relationship Friends
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VPoints 3
Supporters 0
Vent 1
Frustrated
a month ago
My bestie keeps ignoring me and my life is going downhill

Me and my bestie have been friends For about a month now They were there for me forever, But today They just keeping me They hate me probably and because of my social anxiety I believe it's true But now The aunt I hate Just came over Even though she gave me the tablet I have And currently Using to vent She keeps yelling at me She wants me to be perfect But I'm not Everything sucks right now

Relationship Family
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VPoints 3
Supporters 0
Vent 1
WTH
a month ago
The other bitch that made me being fucking stupid's

My mom showed me my dad texts her ( they never got married he cheated on her btw ) talking about some " why is he ignoring me its not like I abused her?" 😐😑😐 BITCH YES YOU DID TF??

Relationship Family
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VPoints 6
Supporters 1
Vent 1
Frustrated
4 months ago
My mother body-shamed me just now and it hurts...

So I have my graduation tomorrow and I have this really cute back-less pencil dress and I really wanted to wear it so I showed my mom and she said "you look like a hooker". wow.. thx mom.. now I'm crying to my girlfriend and my bestfriend. I used to feel so good in this dress.. but now.. I hate it.. I hate my body because of her.. I wish she would just let me love myself and hurt me.

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Idk what to do anymore... pls help me.

~Yuki

PS. Still crying and it feels like I can't breathe. Everything hurts..

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Relationship Myself
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VPoints 17
Supporters 2
Vent 3
Frustrated
4 months ago
How to feel acceptable as a mate

My previous vent was about the lady I want to love. This is about all the ones between when we broke up and when we reconnected.

I spent 3 years trying to get together with someone new. Every experience went like this: I meet someone I fancy. I am nervous about how to approach her. Finally build up the courage and one of 3 things happens: she has a boyfriend/husband, she isn't trying to date anyone, or she isn't into me past friendship.

Enough of those back to back already hurts a man's pride. Then enters the ones who pretend to like me until they either get what they want or stop getting what they want. Those girls just damaged my heart for fun in my opinion.

It's so tough to feel adequate when these are the experiences you have in the dating world. When every time you think you have a chance, you're competing against every bad boyfriend that lady ever had and are being judged by the same ruler. I want to get to know her, she's too hung up on how bad her ex was. To be fair, I did the same thing but I wanted to get over her and move on as fast as she did. But it always appeared that who or what I am was never what the women I was into were looking for.

I'm almost 40. I've never been married. Nearly all my friends are married, divorced, or in long term relationships. It makes me feel so inadequate that NO ONE wants to stay with me. I'm certain I can satisfy someone's boyfriend checklist, but there's a very real chance I will never find anyone who wants a middle aged man like me. The dating pool for me is women who are significantly younger than me, women who have had strings of bad relationships, and women who have had messy breakups or divorces. At least that's how it appears to me.

And the incessant refrain of "you're such a sweetheart! Any girl would be lucky to have you!" What is that even supposed to mean? And being that I've been single for a long period of time, how is that a compliment? And if that's not enough...one of the women who said that not only was someone I ended up trying to date, but she also skipped over me to try and be with her kids' dad who couldn't stay out of trouble and constantly treated her poorly.

I've fought the decision to just act like a huge jerk to every woman I find attractive in the hopes that the bad boy angle will work for me. But it doesn't feel authentic to me. I guess a man who isn't someone who needs so much fixing up isn't a draw.

These are just my feelings. No one has to agree with me. And I'm absolutely not saying all women act in this manner. I'm only speaking from my personal experiences and I look forward to being proven wrong by a woman who can accept me for who I am.

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Relationship Significant Others
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VPoints 17
Supporters 2
Vent 3
Angry
4 months ago
I want to love her, but she doesn't want to be loved.

How many of us want to be loved and cared for? How many of us want someone to spend our days and nights with? How many of us want someone to look at us with love in their eyes? Apparently not my ex. She and I reconnected last year and spent the entirety of that year talking, getting to know each other again after years of being apart. We had 2 liasons where physical intimacy happened. In a year. So when we finally talked about trying to get together again, I was ecstatic. I talked to people who were close to me (my sons' mother, who loved her to death, my coworker who knew her and 2 friends who had spent time with her) but apparently that was too much for her. She told me she was bothered by me talking to people about us. It's not like I went around saying "she's my girlfriend". I was saying, "we're giving things another shot" and that nothing was definite. SHE made a big deal of it and has been a lot more distant. While I can understand she's been through difficulties with the guy she ended up with after we split, I can't understand how she is upset with me being clear with her for A FUCKIN' YEAR about how I felt about her. I've been consistent with what I've said and done. I haven't hidden my feelings or motives. So why is it so terrible that I want to love her like we did a long time ago? Women make no sense to me. They go with guys who mistreat them and hate it. Then they say, "why can't I find a good guy?". And when a good guy comes along, their first instinct is to tear apart anything the good guy says or does. And THEN, they often end up with another guy who treats them badly. I'm not a terrible person. I have flaws and difficulties I have to work through. But I admit to not being perfect and vow to make effort to improve. Why am I a terrible choice for a mate? I hate how I feel and I wish I could change the way things are. But apparently if you aren't beating her up, cheating on her or treating her like garbage, you couldn't possibly love her.

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Relationship Family
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VPoints 6
Supporters 2
Vent 1
Frustrated
6 months ago
My family and school istg jjekdfkekddlreo

UGHHGHH

Okay, I'm in 7th grade, and i have to admit, I am thinking about suicide. I'm too fucking stressed all the time. With all this online work, losing friends, and family problems, its honestly just frustrating. I cry myself to sleep almost everynight.

I'm currently failing 4 subjects. i am trying my best to get them up, I really am. And then theres also the fact that I barely have any friends, and my family thinks I'm really weird since my siblings have more friends than me. Sorry that I have really bad anxiety. I literally can't talk to people or I'll feel really sick. I used to have way more friends last year, but they're all online. I really only have 2 friends now. Back onto my parents, well step dad atleast. I decided back in september to tell my mom and step dad that I feel suicidal, and i think i have depression since i cut myself and I always have these thoughts. My mom wanted to help me, and you know what my step dad said? "You have no reason to be depressed" He thinks he knows how I feel, and he thinks he knows everything. He doesn't know what goes on in my mind or at school. But if i ever try to tell him this, he says I'm talking back and then he sends me to my room. Thanks. And it doesn't help me either that my actual dad drinks and gets in trouble with the police. He then goes on to blame me for his drinking problems since i never come and see him anymore. I'm sorry! I don't want to visit you because you committed many small crimes. You should be in jail, but he uses his "ptsd" as an excuse. He was in the army, but he never fought or anything. The only thing he did was cheat on my mom with two other women. He's also had many girlfriends too. They all broke up with him because he's an assh*le. Ugh. I just can't do this anymore

Thanks for coming to my rant

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