Remember you are worthy | VentAllOut blog

Every now and then we do feel like we are not good enough, it can be because your parents said so or when you are doing bad at school or when your siblings are achieving great heights but you are not, or simply because you feel like it. There can also be moments in our life when our relationships break off we might think that it broke off because we are not worth it. Modern society has set up certain goals that is said to prove that we are successful and when we  don’t meet up with it, it is only natural that we feel lowly. it can be lack of instagram followers, or less salary than our friends, this modern day myth leads us to create many unrealistic goals and expectations for ourselves which lead us to being unforgiving to ourselves which is not what we deserve. So it is important to remember certain things when we feel like this or question our own self worth:

1. Unhealthy comparison- always looking at other’s life and measuring our happiness with theirs is always bad for us; there will always be people who have more than us, maybe money, beauty or a job. This can lead to us being blind about many wonderful things that we already have in our lives, the other people are also just like us, maybe they will envious of something we have but they don’t. So don’t let such comparisons make us unhappy.

2. Thoughts are just thoughts- there can be moments when we are cruel to ourselves and undermine our value in these situations we must realize that these are just thoughts and not our reality. We can have bad or discouraging thoughts from time to time but what becomes reality is something that we ourselves should decide.

3. Our worst traits and mistakes don’t define us- every humans have their worst sides to them but that should not define us, we must reward ourselves for the good in us and it is when we carry ourselves with love that we spread love.

4. Progress- we must not be worried that we don’t have solutions to all our problems or have all figured out, everyone learns more as they grow more, so the best state of being is constantly progressing and improving .

5. Perfection- it is just a myth, and no one is complete from the beginning, all the best things in life takes time so don’t overdo ourselves.

6. We deserve love and care- for this, we must first love ourselves because as a writer said ‘we accept the love we think we deserve’. So next time we fall into the pit of self pity and self doubt accept the love around us instead of avoiding it because it is the time we deserve more love.

7. Live in the present and believe we are worthy- stop being stuck in the past or be anxious of the future and love and live in the present with mindfulness. we are the only ones in the universe that are like us, so give ourselves that worth instead of wishing for another person’s life, they might unhappy inside. Trying to be someone else kills the person that we are, we are best when we are ourselves.

Everyone has fears, does mistakes and has moments of self doubt but that must pass and a new love for ourselves must be born with it, it is the highs as well as lows that makes us, so give ourselves love and freedom and worth. It will make huge changes.

Every now and then we do feel like we are not good enough, it can be because your parents said so or when you are doing bad at school or when your siblings are achieving great heights but you are not, or simply because you feel like it. There can also be moments in our life when our relationships break off we might think that it broke off because we are not worth it. Modern society has set up certain goals that is said to prove that we are successful and when we  don’t meet up with it, it is only natural that we feel lowly. it can be lack of instagram followers, or less salary than our friends, this modern day myth leads us to create many unrealistic goals and expectations for ourselves which lead us to being unforgiving to ourselves which is not what we deserve. So it is important to remember certain things when we feel like this or question our own self worth:

1. Unhealthy comparison- always looking at other’s life and measuring our happiness with theirs is always bad for us; there will always be people who have more than us, maybe money, beauty or a job. This can lead to us being blind about many wonderful things that we already have in our lives, the other people are also just like us, maybe they will envious of something we have but they don’t. So don’t let such comparisons make us unhappy.

2. Thoughts are just thoughts- there can be moments when we are cruel to ourselves and undermine our value in these situations we must realize that these are just thoughts and not our reality. We can have bad or discouraging thoughts from time to time but what becomes reality is something that we ourselves should decide.

3. Our worst traits and mistakes don’t define us- every humans have their worst sides to them but that should not define us, we must reward ourselves for the good in us and it is when we carry ourselves with love that we spread love.

4. Progress- we must not be worried that we don’t have solutions to all our problems or have all figured out, everyone learns more as they grow more, so the best state of being is constantly progressing and improving .

5. Perfection- it is just a myth, and no one is complete from the beginning, all the best things in life takes time so don’t overdo ourselves.

6. We deserve love and care- for this, we must first love ourselves because as a writer said ‘we accept the love we think we deserve’. So next time we fall into the pit of self pity and self doubt accept the love around us instead of avoiding it because it is the time we deserve more love.

7. Live in the present and believe we are worthy- stop being stuck in the past or be anxious of the future and love and live in the present with mindfulness. we are the only ones in the universe that are like us, so give ourselves that worth instead of wishing for another person’s life, they might unhappy inside. Trying to be someone else kills the person that we are, we are best when we are ourselves.

Everyone has fears, does mistakes and has moments of self doubt but that must pass and a new love for ourselves must be born with it, it is the highs as well as lows that makes us, so give ourselves love and freedom and worth. It will make huge changes.

By:

Nabeela Rasheed


Posted : 4 months ago

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