Having to deal with depression and anxiety in daily life makes one emotionally rigid. It’s a psychological phenomenon that is highly seen in people suffering through mental illness for a long time.
What’s Emotional Rigidity?
Nick Montgomery, Author of Joyful Militancy: Building Thriving Resistance in Toxic Times, writes “When rigidity and suspicion take over, joy dies out.”
By definition, it is the mental block formed by people overtime that avoids penetration of different perceptions other than what one believes in. A therapist’s work is to first break through the wall. Being the first and foremost step, this is also the most difficult task to do.
Why is it essential to break the rigidity?
You see around yourself, civilization happened only when ideas were made to break. Had the stagnancy inflected the generations, we wouldn’t thirst for more. Even in relationships, if you’re not looking further into the future, slowly but gradually, you’ll start to lose people from your life.
For growth, prosperity and peace, we need to add more flexibility into the headspace.
What are some ways to reduce emotional rigidity?
1. Find your rigid areas
Keep a note of your rigid areas for a few days. When you’re in office or college, note, if you’re taking feedbacks harshly or talking to someone, puts you off instantly. When at home, address your feelings when your family members discuss certain topics with you. Know where do you find yourself stern.
2. Experiment more
One of the best ways to break the shell is to try out new things. When you’re deeply tensed about something, try venting online. If you easily get bored then join some groups where people from different walks of life meet and celebrate their common interests like food, reading, storytelling, poetry, political discussion, etc.
3. Let it go
It’s not easy for a person with wisdom and wise to allow others to lead their day. Are you highly drawn towards a habit-forming routine? Well, take a break! Ask your friends, partners or family members to decide your day. Go on blind dates if you’re looking for a partner. There are so many things where all you need to do is to let it go!
4. Avoid All NOs!
Well, it’s said that it’s difficult to say ‘No’. But when you’re dealing with emotional rigidity, you’re more comfortable in denying anything and everything that comes your way. Keep a check on your “Can’t”, “Shouldn’t”, “Wouldn’t”, “Nope!” and other negative phrases and try to convert them into a yes!
It’s going to be quite a struggle. But try!
5. Just Vent
Bottling your feelings to avoid confusion, stress, sadness or other negative emotions can be a defense mechanism for you. We know you want to protect others from your demons but the truth is, fighting alone is going to exhaust you. That’s why we suggest an anonymous posting board when you need to vent out.
Is it going to be difficult to break the pattern?
Yes. We don’t want to give you a fake image that people have come out of their years of pattern in just a few days. It’s a daily job. You’re fighting your conscious and subconscious mind. While it might take time for you to break psychological rigidity, but it’s going to be worth it. You’ll allow the happiness to flow into you. You will enlighten yourself with possibilities that were getting blocked otherwise.
Hold on to the thought of working on yourself, and you’ll find happiness. Stay tuned to this space for more such amazing articles just for you.
Posted : 3 weeks ago